Commentary: A true waterman, yes, but so much more

The past few days, for those of us lucky enough to have known Ben Carlson, have been a surreal experience.

Ben’s passing July 6 brings a mix of emotions, ranging from sheer disbelief to the highest degree of gratitude for his ultimate sacrifice, saving the life of a swimmer (“Signs of sorrow,” July 11).

I considered Ben a dear friend. We worked together as Newport Beach lifeguards for the entire span of my 14-year career. I could share with you my enormous feelings of respect, loyalty and companionship for Ben, but I feel it more fitting to offer you a glimpse of the man who will forever be remembered not just as an accomplished waterman but as a legend among his fellow lifeguards.

A culture of camaraderie and brotherhood exists in every public-safety organization across the nation. Within the Newport Beach marine operations, and I’m sure other agencies, the leaders have a not-so-subtle way of standing out. Ben was one of those who just couldn’t get by unnoticed.

This attention was not of the self-driven type that has become all too popular. No, Ben was a throwback, a real man’s man. He held himself with a high level of integrity. You could take him at his word and trust in his ability to make the right decision. His presence was felt throughout the department through the most pure and genuine means of leadership: Ben led by example.

For those who never had the pleasure of meeting Ben, close your eyes and imagine an elite waterman. His lean and athletic frame was chiseled from years of swimming and surfing in the ocean. A true athlete at his core, Ben challenged himself at the highest levels of collegiate athletics and professional surfing contests. His physical stature and prowess in the water lent a great deal to the esteem in which he was held among peers.

Leaning upon all those years of surfing in Newport and around the globe, Ben had an uncanny eye for rescues. It went well beyond his ability to recognize changing currents. Ben’s intimate relationship with the ocean developed nothing short of what can be called a sixth sense for the water. This knowledge was no trade secret to Ben; his charismatic and authentic nature made it a welcome lesson whenever he shared with you his passion and love for the ocean.

There is no doubt that these qualities are all necessary in a true waterman. But what separated Ben and undeniably vaulted him to legendary status had nothing to do with the ocean. He was one of the most honest and compassionate individuals I have met. He genuinely cared for and respected everyone who touched his life.

It was his compassion for his fellow man that was on full display July 6. I can promise everyone that Ben knew just how dangerous the ocean was that day. And for that exact reason, he wanted to be watching over the water to guard the lives of others. This is the selfless act that made Ben larger than life.

Ben was someone I greatly admired, and I feel fortunate to have had such an amazing person to whom I could confide. I know he touched the lives of the Newport Beach lifeguards and many, many others throughout his journeys. I feel safe knowing that Ben won’t be too far away, still watching over us, and I trust that his smile will never leave our memories.

Aloha, Ben! Enjoy paradise!

JOSH YOCAM, a former president of the Assn. of Newport Beach Ocean Lifeguards, lives on Balboa Island.