JOSEPH N. BELL -- The Bell Curve
I’ve been mulling over this charge from the editors of the Daily Pilot
to its readers--of which I am one--to send in an account of “whatever
you’re thankful for.”
I found that trying to single out any one person or event for special
gratitude on this day of Thanksgiving is almost impossible because I have
been blessed by so many people and events. But the exercise did set me
reflecting, and in that state two things happened to illuminate my
search.
First, I was part of a restaurant dinner party that included two young
people who were bored with adult conversation. So I showed them how it is
possible to flip a spoon high in the air by propelling it with another
spoon. In the process, I remembered that I had learned this trick from a
genie named Stuart Standish, who for many years appeared periodically and
unexpectedly in my life when I most needed some perspective.
A few days later, I read in the TV listings that KCET-TV Channel 28
would be offering a 90-minute tribute to Chuck Jones--the animator who
gave us Bugs Bunny, Daffy Duck and Road Runner--on Thanksgiving Eve.
I realized that these two men--in quite different ways--showed me how
to make life enormously less stressful and enormously more fun. First, by
not taking myself--my work but not myself--terribly seriously. And,
second, by removing the guilt from my built-in sense of irreverence.
Reverence is defined in Webster’s as: “Deference; profound respect
mingled with love and awe.”
The irreverence I learned--first in the military, then from these two
men--has nothing to do with God but rather is a healthy effort to see
human hypocrisy, arrogance, self-aggrandizement, incompetence, piety and
overstuffed ego for what it is.
Neither Bugs Bunny nor Stuart Standish bought into such nonsense, even
when they saw it in themselves.
I met Standish when I moved my family to a suburb of Chicago. He was
the real estate salesman we blundered onto when we began the search for a
home. He simply took us over, refusing to sell us a house we were
considering that he properly thought was all wrong for us and finally
losing a commission when he directed us to a new development that was
absolutely right.
After that, he would show up periodically at my office in downtown
Chicago or at our home with wondrously wise talk or games to play. He
delighted my children and made my wife and me take a fresh look at
matters that seriously needed to be examined through the prism of
irreverence.
We saw him only infrequently after we moved to California. I would
always look him up when I passed through Chicago, and after his wife
died, he grew restless and would appear on our doorstep without warning
on some quest or another. He would only stay long enough to bring his
brand of fresh air into our lives.
The last time we saw him, he was burdened down with diving equipment
while on the way to Hawaii. We never heard from him again. Repeated
efforts I made to track him down in Chicago failed. But the fresh air
remains.
I grew up with Chuck Jones’ various alter egos--a smart-aleck rabbit,
a cynical duck, a “wily” coyote, among numerous others. Most of them
appeared in delicious cartoons called Looney Tunes that I watched in
cavernous movie theaters in the midst of the Great Depression. They
helped us survive through laughter. They also helped a whole generation
of Americans who soon would be fighting a global war to leaven their
courage and dedication with a sense of humor, of irony, and--yes--of
irreverence.
So my long acquaintance with Jones was through his animal
characters--until two years ago. Then I discovered he lives in Newport
Beach after he wrote me a strong letter in support of the sentiments
expressed in one of my columns.
That led to a meeting, some delightfully irreverent conversation,
another column and a signed pencil drawing of Daffy Duck frowning at me
and saying: “For Joe, who loves and detests the same things I do.”
Jones wrote in his book “Chuck Amuck” that cartoonists use animals
because “it is easier to humanize animals than it is to humanize humans.”
That may be true of everyone but Jones, who told me he wouldn’t get a
dog until he was 91 “because then I can be reasonably sure the dog will
outlive me, and he’s the one who will have to grieve.”
Where he once lightened my early life with his cartoons, he is now--at
87--illuminating the other end of my life with comments like this: “I
don’t pay much attention to age. I didn’t know how to act 6 when I was 6,
and I don’t know how to act 87. I feel like a young man who has something
the matter with him. It all adds up to how good you feel about the life
around you.”
I’ll be watching KCET for more comments like that--and to relive some
of those Looney Tunes. And I’ll be thanking Chuck Jones and Stuart
Standish on Thursday for helping me for so many years to feel good about
the life around me.
* JOSEPH N. BELL is a resident of Santa Ana Heights. His column is
published Thursdays.
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